In an attempt to plan a wedding, not let the wedding plan me.... I'm going to TRY and not post wedding talk all the time. The same way I TRY and not talk about it every single day. It's a work in progress. I figured a Wedding Wednesday is the best way to go about that! So guaranteed every Wednesday... I'm going to talk about our wedding in one way or another. All the other days... well, I can't guarantee anything, but I will find something to talk about :)
For today's Wedding Wednesday we're going to talk about receptions. Or, I'm going to talk and you're going to save me. Ok? Sgt. and I are paying for about 85% of our wedding. So of course we're trying to figure out ways to make it what we want, not go crazy, still have a beautiful wedding, and most importantly have FUN. We want to have fun, we want to celebrate, and we want to treat our guests to a fun, tasty, twirly time! Whooo hooo!
We've been TOTALLY blessed to get our reception venue at no cost because I just happen to have been blessed with working at the best place on earth (not Disney World) not long ago. They are my family away from family... and that place happens to be a gorgeous rolling hill landscape right on the river. It's awesome. And I'm so thankful!
The Ceremony is supposed to take place at The Church. The Church only holds weddings at 2:00. Yep, 2:00 in the afternoon. Now, for someone who wants to have a fun, tasty, twirly reception... this poses an issue.
By the time the Ceremony is over and everyone gets out of the church and out to the reception it'll be about 3:00. I've spoken with the caterer and we're supposed to have a cocktail hour and appetizers (ok, I'll be honest, I tried to spell the H word and couldn't) until about 4:30 at which point I'm hoping people will take their sweet time finding their seats and then we can start dinner at 5. Dinner over at 6 and dancing until 9.
Except it just seems so LONG to me. Mostly because the caterer is (fairly) charging me a little extra because she's got to stay there from 3-9. If I could figure out a way to cut some of the time down we would be golden.
First option is have the ceremony somewhere else.... like at the reception venue, starting later in the evening. But the church is important to us, so for now, I'd like to not do that.
Second option is to do our own appetizers and cocktails. Have signature drink, beer, wine, and snacks out from 3 - 4:30 and then have the caterer show up at 5 to do dinner. This would reduce the time they're there...
Third option is to have ceremony and then not start the cocktail hour until 5... and just give guests a list of things to do around town until then. What I worry about here is that 1. Wedding momentum will be lost and people won't be as eager to have fun since they just had to wait all that time for the next portion. 2. The people who do not have a hotel in town will really have to find something to do. Most people are coming from out of town but not everyone... I thought about asking the camp (reception venue) if maybe we could set up some fun laid back activities like horseshoes, washers, the putting green, etc... so people could do that while waiting. (an hour or two) But then I feel like it will be an extension of the wedding and I should at least have drinks or something out there for them to enjoy. 3. What about my hair? And Makeup? And do I stay in my dress for two hours hanging out... or do I change... which would mean two dresses.
The wedding isn't formal - the theme we're working with now is "Upscale-Down Home" so it's sort of an Americana feel to it... (please God, no one show up in cutoffs) Semi-formal with a laid back vibe.
This has just got me stuck! I don't know what to do. I think either way it seems like dinner is too early, or there was too much wait time. So, please, help me. What would you do? or better yet, what would you ENJOY as a guest? What wouldn't you enjoy? Why? Am I crazy? Do you have any other options for me other than the ones listed? Any and all help is appreciated! Especially from Sgt... if I ask him this question anymore I think he'll blindfold me and kidnap me to Mexico so we can elope.
You know how you get engaged and then you and your fiance sit down and talk about all the details you want in your wedding. You start thinking about colors and venues and food and music and decorations, and you're so excited. Then you call your parents and they ask how the plans are coming and you tell them all of your great ideas and they're so thrilled and happy and say things like "Oh, that's such a great idea!" and "Wow, I couldn't have done it better myself" and "Whoever you think to invite is fine, we will be there, you guys will be there, that's all that matters"
No? You either? Well at least it's not just me.
Truth be told... it's not my "Family" it's *looks around* *whispers* my step mom.
Whom I love, and who really has her my best interests at heart. However, I am actually avoiding wedding planning JUST so when she calls I can say "I haven't really had time to get much more done." I'm probably overreacting since we only had the one conversation... and I know that if I said "This is important to me, and I want it done this way" she'd back off... with hurt feelings but I do want to include her, and I don't want her to think I'm completely discounting her opinions...
I JUST DO NOT WANT YOUR MOM BRINGING HAM ROLL UPS TO OUR WEDDING!
I'm a native Texan, but current Tennessean. I survive on coffee, compliments, love, sunshine, sweet tea, cooking, naps, shiny accessories, the word "Y'all", entertaining friends, laughing, Shiner Bock, cookie dough ice cream, and pictures taken on my good side. I'm currently the assistant director of a fabulous preschool and just finished planning an upscale-downhome wedding to the man of my dreams. I do not like the sound of someone blowing their nose, changing the cat litter, artificial sweeteners, consecutive days of rain, sticky lip gloss, working out, clutter, or cockroaches. I do however LOVE being a wife and this crazy inbetween Army world we're finding ourselves in. I can't wait to see what life has in store for us!
This blog began when my Sgt. was deployed to Iraq for a 2007-2008 tour. In August of 2008 he finally came home! During this time he was discharged from the Army to pursue a program he was accepted to while on active duty called Green to Gold. In August 2008 he began his stint in the Green to Gold program and in college. We were finally in the same time zone! After 7 months of living about 1000 miles apart we decided to take one more chance on change and move in together. As if things couldn't get any better, Sgt. proposed on December 13, 2009! We were married on October 16, 2010 which brings us to where we are today, living blissfully in an in-between Army world for 1 more year before it's back to active duty! Stay tuned for what will surely be more twists and turns in our crazy adventure called life!